When hunters start out the first thing they do is find a place to pitch their tent. That’s where they’ll eat and gather in between hunts. They call it camp. When you are in the midst of a big hunt you need a camp.
Ideally this would be a local eatery that has charm, a friendly staff, and reasonable prices, but most of all, a wonderful atmosphere and good food. It’s arguably the most important decision you will make other than the individual because it is so vital to your education. Did I actually write the word education? Oh yes… did at that.
This location would ideally have indoor and outdoor seating, a view would be a huge plus and the type of food that both of you love. . . Your future beloved may not appreciate Italian food like you. It’s advisable to scout out several different restaurants with different options IE: Indian, Italian, Greek, Mexican, Mediterranean etc. Do not go to a restaurant where you hate the food, the music, the atmosphere or this process will be grueling. It is recommended that you visit this location at least once a week… every week possible.
This will be your place; in this eatery you will discover the fabric of his character and the secret to getting into the core of his heart. You will also over time become familiar with the staff and request your table. Ingrain the two of you into the heart of the restaurant and make it your own. This is where you are going to ask all those important questions listed in Rule #5.
By knowing what to ask you can find out if you are compatible, more importantly if you should stay, or run as fast as you can in the other direction. You will look for red flags and green lights. The important thing is that by asking the right questions you will find out if it’s safe to let yourself fall in love.
I get it. Sometimes your heart decides to make the dive before you know if there’s water in the pool. But as an adult it’s important to guard your heart and don’t jump before you are certain that there will be two steady arms waiting to catch you, and that when you do you won’t knock him over with the sheer force of the impact.
If this relationship works out this is the restaurant you will still be visiting when you’re ninety and still holding hands.
